November 16, 2016
Transition: 1) change or passage from one state or stage to another. 2) The period of time during which something changes from one state or stage to another.
I’d like to say that after our 500 mile hike across Spain along the Camino de Santiago, that we arrived. After all, we did reach our goal of Santiago de Compostella, forever changed through our journey.
In a sense this is true, however the real truth is that Dan and I are still in transition and our journey is far from over. Transition is happening slowly in us from the inside out. It is what is happening in our minds as a result of coming to grips with change. There is less focus on us, our creature comforts, and our future. We no longer need to be heard, we listen more. We accept full responsibility for doing our part. We don’t have total understanding but we have faith and for now that seems to be more than enough.
Frankly speaking, we have had no regrets of retiring, selling our home, downsizing or hitting the road in our RV. I can’t explain it, but we know this is what we are suppose to be doing in this current stage of our life. Even in this crazy world turned up side down we are at peace.
Our journey didn’t start and end with the Camino de Santiago and it certainly wasn’t to discover our purpose. It was a passage or bridge from one stage of life into another. We are over the bridge but we are still on our journey. I would describe our journey as a ‘quest’ or a life journey to live out our purpose. My sister-in-law sent me a quote that remindered her of our journey. She read it in a book titled ‘Resilience’ by Eric Greitens. I thought he described what we are doing perfectly: “On a quest, we discover the true nature of what we are after only by going on the journey.”
Our ‘quest’ is to live out and be a reflection of God’s nature not ours. This means that on our journey, we are doing our best to reflect love, patience and self discipline. It is purposeful, but not contrived.
Our goals are simple:
1) Trust and obey
2) Spend quality time with our grandchildren and their parents.
3) Provide practicle help wherever and whenever we can.
4) Love on those who are put in our path.
What this looks like depends on what is needed at the time. Currently we are back in the Bay Area for 3 weeks spending time with our middle son’s family. We will be here through Thanksgiving.
For the past couple weeks, we have been blessed to be able to help chauffeur kids to and from activities, play kick ball and do puzzles, help with homework and light housework and make an occasional dinner.
Remember the old proverb “It takes a village to raise a child”? To me this means a child has a much better chance of becoming a healthy well rounded adult if those beyond the extended family, in the context of community, take an active role in contributing to the childs raising.
Dan’s mother and father’s paticipation and help were a good example of this. Their participation was a triple blessing for all of us. We received a much needed reprieve which helped us be more patient parents. Our kids really got to know and love their grandparents, and Dan’s parents were able to leave their grandkids a priceless legacy of love. It doesn’t get much better than that!
Our RV is the perfect resolution while visiting our grandchildren and their parents without upsetting the natural rhythm of their family unit and honoring their space and resources. I think it was Benjamin Franklin that said “guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days.” Our goal is to not become like those fish.